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Mary Dixon (aka Wollstonecraft)

The most elemental meaning of “patriarchy” is the father as the head of the family. This ideology, which has wrought so much global oppression against women, is carried on in the tradition of a man’s wife, and all of his children, bearing his surname. I believe that true gender equality — equality of social status and respect, not just things like the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission — requires an equal passing down of the father’s and the mother’s birth surnames. To this end, I am partial to a matrilineage and patrilineage running in parallel for cisgender heterosexual family members, with case by case egalitarian modifications for LGBT family members.

To illustrate how this might work, as well as just a small taste of its power, I have traced back the matrilineal surnames of notable women a few generations.


(from Sojourner Truth)

  1. Baumfree, Elizabeth (c. 1777)

2. Baumfree, Isabella (1797-1883; daughter of Elizabeth) ~ suffragist and abolitionist

3. Baumfree, Diana (1815; daughter of Isabella)

Baumfree, Elizabeth II (1825; daughter of Isabella)

Baumfree, Sophia (1826; daughter of Isabella)


(from Kim Kardashian)

  1. Campbell, Mary Jo (born 1934) ~ retail entrepreneur

2. Campbell, Kristen (born 1955; daughter of Mary Jo) ~ television host and talent manager

Campbell, Karen (born 1958; daughter of Mary Jo)

3. Campbell, Kourtney (born 1979; daughter of Kristen) ~ fashion designer and retail entrepreneur

Campbell, Kimberly (born 1980; daughter of Kristen) ~ fashion designer and cosmetics entrepreneur

Campbell, Khloe (born 1984; daughter of Kristen) ~ fashion designer and television host

Campbell, Kendall (born 1995; daughter of Kristen) ~ model and fashion designer

Campbell, Kylie (born 1997; daughter of Kristen) ~ cosmetics entrepreneur and fashion designer

4. Campbell, Penelope (born 2012; daughter of Kourtney)

Campbell, North (born 2013; daughter of Kimberly)

Campbell, Chicago (born 2018; daughter of Kimberly)

Campbell, True (born 2018; daughter of Khloe)

Campbell, Stormi (born 2018; daughter of Kylie)


(from Courtney Love)

de Sola, Candelaria

de Sola, Courtney ~ singer and actor

de Sola, Elsie ~ screenwriter

de Sola, Frances ~ visual artist and music journalism intern

de Sola, Jaimee

de Sola, Linda ~ author and marriage counselor

de Sola, Nicole

de Sola, Paula ~ author


(from Mary Wollstonecraft)

Dixon, Clara

Dixon, Eliza

Dixon, Elizabeth

Dixon, Everina

Dixon, Frances

Dixon, Mary ~ philosopher and historian

Dixon, Mary II ~ author


(from Nkosazana Dlamini-Zuma)

Dlamini, Gugulethu ~ producer and actor

Dlamini, Msholozi

Dlamini, Nkosazana ~ politician and doctor

Dlamini, Nokuthula

Dlamini, Thuthukile ~ government official


(from Jessica Simpson)

Drew, Ashley ~ actor and singer

Drew, Birdie

Drew, Jessica ~ fashion designer and actor

Drew, Maxwell

Drew, Tina


(from Paris Hilton)

  1. Dugan, Kathleen (c. 1929)

2. Dugan, Kathleen II (born 1959; daughter of Kathleen) ~ fashion designer

Dugan, Kim (born 1964; daughter of Kathleen) ~ actor

Dugan, Kyle (born 1969; daughter of Kathleen) ~ actor

3. Dugan, Paris (born 1981; daughter of Kathleen II) ~ fashion designer and DJ

Dugan, Nicholai (born 1983; daughter of Kathleen II) ~ fashion designer

Dugan, Brooke (born 1986; daughter of Kim)

Dugan, Whitney (born 1990; daughter of Kim)

Dugan, Kimberly II (born 1995; daughter of Kim)

Dugan, Farrah (born 1988; daughter of Kyle)

Dugan, Alexia (born 1996; daughter of Kyle)

Dugan, Sophia (born 2000; daughter of Kyle)

Dugan, Portia (born 2008; daughter of Kyle)

4. Dugan, Lily (born 2016; daughter of Nicholai)


(from Melanie Griffith)

Eckhardt, Dorothea (born c. 1897)

2. Eckhardt, Patricia (born c. 1927; daughter of Dorothea)

Eckhardt, Nathalie (born 1930; daughter of Dorothea) ~ actor and model

3. Eckhardt, Melanie (born 1957; daughter of Nathalie) ~ actor and producer

4. Eckhardt, Dakota (born 1989; daughter of Melanie) ~ actor and producer

Eckhardt, Stella (born 1996; daughter of Melanie)


(from Jane Birkin)

  1. Fulton, Mary

2. Fulton, Judith (1916 – 2004; daughter of Mary) ~ actor

3. Fulton, Jane (born 1946; daughter of Judith) ~ singer and actor

4. Fulton, Kate (1967 – 2013; daughter of Jane) ~ photographer

5. Fulton, Charlotte (born 1971; daughter of Jane) ~ actor and singer

6. Fulton, Lou (born 1982; daughter of Jane) ~ actor and singer

7. Fulton, Alice (born 2002; daughter of Charlotte)

8. Fulton, Jo (born 2011; daughter of Charlotte)


(from Queen Elizabeth II)

  1. Garritt, Mary (c. 1765)

2. Garritt, Frances (c. 1785; daughter of Mary)

3. Garritt, Anne (1805-1881; daughter of Frances)

4. Garritt, Caroline (1832-1918; daughter of Anne)

Garritt, Cecilia (c. 1835-1869; daughter of Anne)

Garritt, Gertrude (c. 1837-1865; daughter of Anne)

Garritt, Ida (1839-1886; daughter of Anne)

5. Garritt, Cecilia II (1862-1938; daughter of Caroline)

Garritt, Ann II (1864-1932; daughter of Caroline)

Garritt, Hyacinth (1864-1916; daughter of Caroline)

6. Garritt, Violet (1882-1893; daughter of Cecilia II)

Garritt, Mary II (1883-1961; daughter of Cecilia II)

Garritt, Rose (1890-1967; daughter of Cecilia II)

Garritt, Elizabeth (1900-2002; daughter of Cecilia II)

7. Garritt, Jean (1915-1999; daughter of Mary II)

Garritt, Margaret (1925-2016; daughter of Mary II) ~ personal assistant

Garritt, Mary III (1917-2014; daughter of Rose)

Garritt, Elizabeth II (born 1926; daughter of Elizabeth) ~ Queen of the United Kingdom

Garritt, Margaret II (1930-2002; daughter of Elizabeth) ~ Princess of the United Kingdom

8. Garritt, Annabel (born 1952; daughter of Margaret)

Garritt, Victoria (born 1953; daughter of Margaret)

Garritt, Anne III (born 1950; daughter of Elizabeth II) ~ Princess of the United Kingdom and Olympic equestrian

Garritt, Sarah (born 1964; daughter of Margaret II) ~ Princess of the United Kingdom and painter

9. Garritt, Zara (born 1981; daughter of Anne III) ~ Olympic equestrian

10. Garritt, Mia (born 2014; daughter of Zara)

Garritt, Lena (born 2018; daughter of Zara)


(from Kamala Harris)

Meenakshi Gopalan
  1. Gopalan, Shyamala (1938 – 2009) ~ biomedical scientist

2. Gopalan, Kamala (born 1964; daughter of Shyamala)~ Vice President of the United States

Gopalan, Lakshmi (born 1967; daughter of Shyamala) ~ policy advisor and lawyer

3. Gopalan, Meenakshi (born 1984; daughter of Lakshmi) ~ fashion designer and lawyer


(from Neil Patrick Harris)

Harris, Harper

Harris, Neil ~ actor and television host


(from Michelle Obama)

Jumper, Malia ~ politicial and television intern

Jumper, Marian ~ secretary

Jumper, Michelle ~ attorney and humanitarian

Jumper, Natasha ~ waiter and humanitarian

Jumper, Rebecca ~ nurse


(from Cynthia Nixon)

Knoll, Anne ~ actor

Knoll, Cynthia ~ actor

Knoll, Max


(from Beyonce)

Lesser, Agnes ~ seamster

Lesser, Beyonce ~ singer and fashion designer

Lesser, Blue Ivy

Lesser, Celestine ~ fashion designer and beautician

Lesser, Josephine

Lesser, Odilia

Lesser, Rumi

Lesser, Solange ~ singer and fashion designer


(from Matilda Joslyn Gage)

Leslie, Dorothy

Leslie, Helen

Leslie, Jocelyn ~ activist and radio announcer

Leslie, Julia

Leslie, Matilda ~ suffragist and abolitionist

Leslie, Maud ~ sewing instructor


(from Elisabeth Luytens)

Liddell, Amanda

Liddell, Constance ~ suffragist

Liddell, Edith

Liddell, Edith II ~ author

Liddell, Eleanor

Liddell, Elisabeth

Liddell, Elisabeth II ~ composer

Liddell, Emily ~ writer

Liddell, Evelyn ~ farmer

Lliddell, Kathleen

Liddell, Mary

Liddell, Ruth


(from Elizabeth Cady Stanton)

Livingston, Anna

Livingston, Anna II ~ radio show host and humanitarian

Livingston, Anna III ~ speech writer and newspaper editor

Livingston, Anna IV ~ librarian and editor

Livingston, Anna V

Livingston, Elizabeth ~ suffragist and historian

Livingston, Harriet ~ suffragist and historian

Livingston, Harriet II

Livingston, Mary

Livingston, Nora ~ civil engineer and architect

Livingston, Rhoda ~ architect and activist


(from Nancy Pelosi)

Lombardi, Alexandra ~ journalist and filmmaker

Lombardi, Annunciata ~ activist

Lombardi, Christine ~ political strategist and attorney

Lombardi, Jacqueline

Lombardi, Nancy ~ Speaker of the House

Lombardi, Nancy II


(from Ricky Martin)

Martin, Enrique ~ singer and actor

Martin, Lucia


(from Whitney Houston)

McCaskill, Anne

McCaskill, Bobbi ~ singer

McCaskill, Delia

McCaskill, Delia II ~ singer

McCaskill, Emily ~ singer

McCaskill, Lee

McCaskill, Marie

McCaskill, Marie II ~ singer and television host

McCaskill, Whitney ~ singer and actor


(from Caitlyn Jenner)

McGuire, Brandon ~ singer

McGuire, Burt ~ racecar driver and businessperson

McGuire, Cailtyn ~ Olympic decathlete and businessperson

McGuire, Esther

McGuire, Sam ~ model and DJ


(from Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis)

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Caroline Merritt II
  1. Merritt, Margaret (1880-1943)

2. Merritt, Marion (1904-1947; daughter of Margaret)

Merritt, Janet (1907-1989; daughter of Margaret)

Merritt, Margaret II (1910-1991; daughter of Margaret)

3. Merritt, Jacqueline (1929-1994; daughter of Janet) ~ editor and photographer

Merritt, Caroline (1933-2019; daughter of Janet) ~ PR executive

Merritt, Janet II (1945-1985; daughter of Janet) ~ French teacher and activist

4. Merritt, Caroline II (born 1957; daughter of Jacqueline) ~ diplomat and attorney

Merritt, Anna (born 1960; daughter of Caroline) ~ Princess of Poland

Merritt, Alexandra (c. 1970; daughter of Janet II)

5. Merritt, Rose (born 1988; daughter of Caroline II) ~ actor and activist

Merritt, Tatiana (born 1990; daughter of Caroline II) ~ journalist and author


(from Ada Lovelace)

Judith Lamb III
  1. Lamb, Judith (born c. 1732)

2. Lamb, Judith II (born. c. 1762; daughter of Judith)

3. Lamb, Anne (1792-1860; daughter of Judith II) ~ educator and abolitionist

4. Lamb, Augusta (1815-1852; daughter of Anne) ~ mathematician and professional gambler

5. Lamb, Anne II (1837-1917; daughter of Augusta) ~ horse breeder

6. Lamb, Judith III (1873-1957; daughter of Anne II) ~ horse breeder and tennis player

7. Lamb, Anne III (1901-1979; daughter of Judith III)

Lamb, Winifred (1904-1985; daughter of Judith III)


(from Laura Ingalls)

1. Morse, Martha (1782 – 1862)

2. Morse, Lydia (born 1805; daughter of Martha)

Morse, Charlotte (1809 – 1884; daughter of Martha)

Morse, Mary (born 1813; daughter of Martha)

3. Morse, Martha II (1837 – 1927; daughter of Charlotte)

Morse, Caroline (1839 – 1924; daughter of Charlotte) ~ teacher

Morse, Eliza ( 1842 – 1931; daughter of Charlotte)

Morse, Charlotte II (daughter of Charlotte)

Morse, Jane (daughter of Charlotte)

4. Morse, Mary II (1865 – 1928; daughter of Caroline) ~ made fly nets for horses

Morse, Laura (1867 – 1957; daughter of Caroline) ~ teacher and author

Morse, Caroline II (1870 – 1946; daughter of Caroline) ~ typesetter

Morse, Grace (1877 – 1941; daughter of Caroline) ~ journalist and teacher

5. Morse, Rose (1886 – 1968; daughter of Laura) ~ journalist and author


(from Hillary Clinton)

Murray, Chelsea ~ news correspondent and author

Murray, Della

Murray, Dorothy ~ housekeeper

Murray, Hillary ~ university chancellor and secretary of state


(from Alex Sykes)

Niedbalski, Alex

Niedbalski, Olivia


(from Carolina Herrera)

Passios, Ana

Passios, Carolina

Passios, Maria

Passios, Maria II ~ fashion designer

Passios, Mercedes

Passios, Patricia


(from Wanda Sykes)

  1. Peoples, Marion ~ banker

2. Peoples, Wanda ~ actor and comedian

3. Peoples, Lucas


(from Serena Williams)

Price, Oracene ~ tennis coach and nurse

2. Price, Isha

Price, Lyndrea

Price, Serena ~ tennis player and venture capitalist

Price, Venus ~ tennis player

Price, Yetunde ~ businessperson and nurse


(from Carla Bruni)

Planche, Renee

2. Planche, Marisa (daughter of Renee) ~ pianist and actor

3. Planche, Carla (daughter of Marisa) ~ singer and model

Planche, Valeria ~ actor and screenwriter

4. Planche, Giulia (daughter of Carla)


(from Britney Spears)

Portell, Britney ~ singer and actor

Portell, Ivey

Portell, Jamie Lynn ~ actor

Portell, Lillian

Portell, Lynne ~ teacher and daycare worker

Portell, Maddie


(from Olave Baden-Powell)

Robinson, Agnes

Robinson, Anne

Robinson, Auriol

Robinson, Betty

Robinson, Eliza

Robinson, Heather

Robinson, Olave


(from Patti LaBelle)

Robinson, Barbara

Robinson, Bertha ~ domestic worker

Robinson, Jacqueline

Robinson, Patricia ~ singer and actor

Robinson, Vivian


(from Kelly Clarkson)

Rose, Alyssa

Rose, Jeanne ~ teacher

Rose, Kelly ~ singer and television host

Rose, River


(from Dianne Feinstein)

Rosenburg, Betty ~ model

Rosenburg, Eileen ~ Electoral College member

Rosenburg, Dianne ~ senator and nonprofit executive

Rosenburg, Katherine ~ judge and attorney


(from Katy Perry)

Schwab, Angela

Schwab, Daisy

Schwab, Katheryn ~ singer and fashion designer

Schwab, Mary ~ pastor

Schwab, Pauline ~ Alcoholics Anonymous aide


(from Edith Ewing Bouvier Beale)

Sergeant, Edith ~ singer

Sergeant, Edith II ~ model and singer

Sergeant, Maude

Sergeant, Maude II

Sergeant, Michelle


(from Laura Bush)

Sherrard, Barbara ~ activist

Sherrard, Cora

Sherrard, Jenna ~ bookkeeper

Sherrard, Jenna II ~ news anchor and author

Sherrard, Jessie

Sherrard, Laura ~ teacher and librarian

Sherrard, Poppy


(from Aretha Franklin)

Siggers, Aretha ~ singer

Siggers, Barbara

Siggers, Carolyn ~ singer

Siggers, Erma ~ singer

Siggers, Sabrina


(from Demi Lovato)

Smith, Beverley ~ singer and musical theater actor

Smith, Dallas

Smith, Demetria ~ singer and actor

Smith, Dianna ~ cheerleader

Smith, Madison


(from Martha Bulloch Roosevelt)

  1. Stewart, Martha (1799-1864)

2. Stewart, Susan (1820-1905; daughter of Martha)

Stewart, Anna (daughter of Martha)

Stewart, Martha II (1835-1844; daughter of Martha)

3. Stewart, Anna II (1855-1931; daughter of Martha II)

Stewart, Corinne (1861-1933; daughter of Martha II) ~ poet

4. Stewart, Corinne II (1886-1971; daughter of Corinne) ~ congressperson

5. Stewart, Corinne III (1912-1997; daughter of Corinne II)

6. Stewart, Corinne IV (daughter of Corinne III)


(from Cara Delevingne)

van Limburg-Stirum, Anna

van Limburg-Stirum, Cara ~ actor and model

van Limburg-Stirum, Chloe

van Limburg-Stirum, Janie ~ personal assistant

van Limburg-Stirum, Pandora

van Limburg-Stirum, Poppy ~ actor and model


(from Melissa Etheridge)

Williamson, Beckett

Williamson, Elizabeth ~ computer consultant

Williamson, Johnnie

Williamson, Melissa ~ singer

Williamson, Miller

When it comes to women taking their husband’s last name, and/or giving all her kids her husband’s last name, there seem to be two camps: those who support the woman’s choice to do so, and those who hate the woman for doing so. It’s easier to focus on the woman’s role than the man’s: after all, it is her name. But most women report making the “choice” due to intense pressure from their fiance and his family. One Australian family reported that, after passing on the mother’s surname to all their children, the father’s parents refused to have any communication with the children.

Patriarchy is an ideology and system invented by men. The Western brand originated in ancient Mesopotamia with the advent of mechanized agriculture, circa 10,000 BCE. Archaeologists have linked it to the invention of the plow. The plow thing is true of Eastern patriarchy as well. When one does genetic, archaeological, prehistoric, historical, and cross-cultural analyses, one will find that patriarchy is not a biological inevitability, it has not existed “for all of time,” and men’s attitudes toward women varied widely across cultures. Key moments in the proliferation of Western patriarchy include the Code of Hammurabi, the male Greek philosophers, the military exploits of Alexander the Great, the Bible, the Quran, global coercive conversion to Christianity and Islam, and of course, global colonialism by Christian Europeans and the genocide of Indigenous Americans, many of whom had much better attitudes toward women (the Haudenosaunees and the Tainos being just two examples).

The continuance of patriarchal traditions, norms, and stereotypes today are primarily the fault of men. Internalized misogyny, which takes different forms from woman to woman, is also primarily the fault of men: fathers, boyfriends, male bosses and coworkers, harassers and trolls, and sexist movies, music, and advertising written, directed, and financed primarily by men. Misogynistic men are evil because ignorance in 2022 is unforgivable. I obtained all the information in this post for free. “I didn’t know” isn’t true. It’s a lie. What they’re really saying is, “I don’t care to know.”

So while one should not go on a witch hunt (another ancient patriarchal tradition) for women who take their husband’s last name and give all their children, including their daughters, their husband’s last name, it is not unreasonable to hope for, and to even expect, more equitable traditions going forward. Always question the role of the man in the relationship. Sometimes a new surname really is 100 percent the woman’s idea: but most of the time it’s not.

I used Ancestry, combined with old family records of my grandmother’s, to trace my matrilineage back nine generations.


  1. Fitzgibbon, Elizabeth (1749-1814)

2. Fitzgibbon, Bridget (1771-1869; daughter of Elizabeth)

3. Fitzgibbon, Catherine (born 1792; daughter of Bridget)

Fitzgibbon, Margaret (born 1796; daughter of Bridget)

Fitzgibbon, Bridget II (born 1815; daughter of Bridget)

Fitzgibbon, Ellen (born 1820; daughter of Bridget)

4. Fitzgibbon, Catherine II (born 1818; daughter of Margaret)

Fitzgibbon, Kate (1830-1891; daughter of Margaret) ~ housekeeper; immigrated from Ireland to the United States

Fitzgibbon, Bridget II (1833-1899; daughter of Margaret)

5. Fitzgibbon, Anna (1860-1935; daughter of Kate) ~ bridge foreman

Fitzgibbon, Bridget III (born 1869; daughter of Bridget II)

Fitzgibbon, Mary (1860-1939; daughter of Bridget II)

Fitzgibbon, Sadie (1874-1936; daughter of Bridget II)

6. Fitzgibbon, Kathryn III (1880-1964; daughter of Anna) ~ bookkeeper

Fitzgibbon, Ada (born 1883; daughter of Anna)

Fitzgibbon, Lillian (born 1886; daughter of Anna)

Fitzgibbon, Maud (born 1889; daughter of Anna)

Fitzgibbon, Marie (c. 1890; daughter of Mary)

7. Fitzgibbon, Alice (1905-1965; daughter of Kathyrn)

Fitzgibbon, Helena (c. 1908; daughter of Kathryn)

Fitzgibbon, Ada II (1917-1993; daughter of Kathryn)

Fitzgibbon, Camilla (1923-1993; daughter of Kathryn)

Fitzgibbon, Ada III (born 1920; daughter of Ada)

8. Fitzgibbon, Sylvia (born 1936; daughter of Alice) ~ nonprofit executive

9. Fitzgibbon, Dawn (born 1963; daughter of Sylvia) ~ paralegal

10. Fitzgibbon, Brette (born 1992; daughter of Dawn) ~ copywriter (That’s me!)

Fitzgibbon, Darin (born 1995; daughter of Dawn) ~ paralegal

I am going to legally change my last name to Fitzgibbon. When one changes one’s surname in marriage, the process is free and easy. But when one changes one’s given name or surname for another reason, it is expensive and arduous. One must pay $435 AND publish the proposed name change in a newspaper in case anybody objects! More evidence that our society promotes and rewards the suppression of female identity.

But I don’t care how inconvenient it is, I’m doing it ASAP. My matrilineal name will appear on my birth certificate. My social security card. My driver’s license. My passport. My death certificate. Everything I accomplish in this life from that point on will bear that name. And I will emblazon it with pride. My taking this name will honor all of my female ancestors, because for a woman to adopt a last name not assigned by a man is a revolutionary act. By reclaiming my matrilineage, I will be reclaiming my female history and identity, and proving that history need not always be written by the oppressors.

From the time I was an adolescent girl, I was taught not to expect much from a male romantic partner, to take what I could get. That’s not a good stereotype for anybody, but it’s true, this was and is the omnipresent message society gives me. In a country where only 20 percent of men are feminists, all a woman can do is shut up, find love, and not die alone, right? But I encourage every woman to stay true to herself, and to break up (or get divorced) from anyone who pressures her to make a choice she does not want to make. To understand that she absolutely deserves any perk a man gets — including passing down her last name to her children. It’s a way to claim history for a group of people — women — who are wrongfully assumed not to have any.

The 2018 Grammy Fashion Awards

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Admit it, the Grammy’s aren’t just about music, any more than the Oscars are only about movies or the SAG Awards are all about actors praising each other. A fashion current runs at the foreground of everything produced, performed and promoted in the entertainment industry and, the way I see it, of everything that people do. It’s hard to observe or analyze any person, group, or social gathering without taking fashion into account — and that’s what makes fashion so special. Here are some of the most stunning Grammy’s looks I’ve seen.



Grammys Beyonce

When someone puts this much work into an outfit, you list them first. Beyoncé was nominated for Best Rap/Sung Performance for “Family Feud”. Custom Nicolas Jebran gown and hat, Jimmy Choo shoes, custom Lorraine Schwartz jewelry, Alain Mikli sunglasses, and custom Judith Leiber minaudière. The look was inspired by the Black Panther movement. Said Jebran, “My favorite element was the bold, broad shoulders because they symbolize power.”





Miley Cyrus performed “Tiny Dancer” with Elton John. Jean Paul Gaultier jumpsuit. Rita Ora in a Ralph & Russo gown with Lorraine Schwartz jewelry.





Anna Kendrick in a La Perla camisole and Balmain suit with Casadei pumps and Ara Vartanian jewelry. Cyndi Lauper performed “Praying” with Kesha. Moschino suit. 

Alessia Cara won for Best New Artist and was nominated for Song of the Year and Best Music Video for “1-800-273-8255” and Best Pop Duo/Group Performance for “Stay”. Rag & Bone suit and Jennifer Fisher jewelry. Kesha was nominated for Best Pop Solo Performance for “Praying” and Best Pop Album for Rainbow, and performed “Praying”. Nudie’s Rodeo Tailor suit, Coomi shoes, Narciso Pheres ring, Roberto Bravo ring and L’Dezen by Payal Shah ring.





Andra Day performed “Praying” with Kesha. Custom Victoria Hayes dress and Christian Louboutin shoes. Lana Del Rey was nominated for Best Pop Album for Lust for Life, and should have won. Custom Gucci gown.




Kimberly Schlapman in Raisa & Vanessa. Bebe Rexha performed “Praying” with Kesha. La Perla gown, Casadei shoes and Lorraine Schwartz jewelry. 




Sza was nominated for Best New Artist, Best R&B Performance for “The Weekend”, Best R&B Song for “Supermodel”, Best Rap/Sung Performance for “Love Galore” and Best Urban Contemporary Album for Ctrl, and performed “Broken Clocks”. Atelier Versace gown and Chopard jewelry. Alison Krauss was nominated for Best Country Solo Performance for “Losing You” and Best American Roots Performance for “I Never Cared for You”. Sachin & Babi dress (similar). 


Heidi Klum in Ashi Studio. Lady Gaga was nominated for Best Pop Vocal Album for Joanne and Best Pop Solo Performance for “Million Reasons,” and performed “Joanne” and “Million Reasons”. Custom Armani Privé gown. 




Chrissy Teigen in a Yanina Couture dress with Lorraine Schwartz jewelry. Eve in a Naeem Khan suit with Chopard jewelry.


Grammys Katie Holmes    Grammys Reba McEntire

Katie Holmes in Zac Posen. Reba McEntire won Best Roots Gospel Album for Sing It Now: Songs of Faith & Hope. Jovani gown.





Janelle Monáe starred in Hidden Figures, which was nominated for Best Compilation Soundtrack and Best Score Soundtrack. Dolce & Gabbana suit, Christian Louboutin shoes and Jennifer Fisher jewelry. Karen Fairchild in a Monique Lhuillier gown with a Judith Leiber box clutch.



Kristin Cavallari in Alex Perry. Ashanti in Yas Couture by Elie Madi.





Rihanna won Best Rap/Sung Performance for “Loyalty” and performed “Wild Thoughts”. Alexandre Vauthier coat, boots and gloves. Hailee Steinfeld in an Alexandre Vauthier dress and boots with a Marli bracelet, Mattia Cielo ring, Hearts on Fire ring and Djula ring. 



Kelly Clarkson was nominated for Best Pop Solo Performance for “Love So Soft”. Christian Siriano gown and shawl. Emmylou Harris in a Johnny Was dress and coat.




Camila Cabello performed “Praying” with Kesha. Vivienne Westwood gown, Bulgari jewelry and Judith Leiber purse. Lorde was nominated for Album of the Year for Melodrama, and should have won. She also should have been asked to perform instead of Elton John, because he’s been around forever and didn’t come out with anything new within the time frame for this year’s Grammy’s. Valentino gown and Kwiat jewelry.

Grammys Pink    Grammys Julia Michaels

Pink was nominated for Best Pop Solo Performance for “What About Us” and performed “Wild Hearts Can’t Be Broken”. Armani Privé gown, AS29 earring and Borgiani ring. Julia Michaels was nominated for Best New Artist and Song of the Year for “Issues,” and performed “Praying” with Kesha. Paolo Sebastian gown and Chopard jewelry.



Cardi B was nominated for Best Rap Performance and Best Rap Song for “Bodak Yellow,” and performed “Finesse”. Ashi Studio gown, Christian Louboutin pumps and Messika Paris jewelry. Sarah Silverman was nominated for Best Comedy Album for A Speck of Dust. Maggie Marilyn dress and Wolford tights. 


The best accessories were the white roses that both women and men wore or carried in solidarity with Time’s Up, the movement to stop sexual harassment. Lorde took it a step further by sewing an excerpt from Jenny Holzer’s Inflammatory Essays to her dress.

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Grammys Andra Day 2 Cropped

No matter the game, great style always wins.

Style Icon — Princess Long Long

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The T. Tandon NY AW17 Fashion Week event at 230 FIFTH Rooftop Bar in the Flatiron District was packed with stylish people. Among them, one woman stood out. She was wearing a beautiful floor-length fuchsia gown and a pale pink beaded blazer, and her hair and makeup was impeccable: back-length curls and a thin cat eye. More than that, she radiated confidence, an attitude of embracing the attention she knew she attracted, rather than demurely acting as if it wasn’t happening. I complimented her on her outfit, and she told me that the dress was of her own design.

Long Long fashion show

Tina Tandon, Princess Long Long, and models.

But Princess Long Long is much more than a fashion designer. She is an opera singer first and foremost. Born and raised in China, she moved to the United States and trained as a soprano at The Juilliard School, where 2,138 students applied and only 162 were accepted. She has channeled her otherworldly voice and years of training into countless performance endeavors around the world: China Central Television (CCTV)’s Avenue of Stars competition, winning the North American finals; the International Music Forum in Bo’ao, China; the China Army; the UNESCO World Fashion Parade in the Garment District; Couture Fashion Week in Times Square; New Jersey Fashion Week; and the 70th Cannes Film Festival last May. She has worked with Freedom Williams (C+C Music Factory), songwriter Howard McCrory (see Michael Jackson and Chaka Khan), soca artist KMC, reggaetón artist Valentino, and spoken word performer Andrew Anderson. Her stage presence translates naturally into acting. Her repertoire includes independent films The Right to Live, Good Friday, Be Frank, and What Women Want Chronicles, and the Off-Broadway cabaret comedy Whatever Happened to Beverly Daniels?, and she is slated to star in the TV show Whatta Guys Really Want. Her creativity also extends to writing, particularly mythology. She wrote a fairy tale, Bird, Bees, and the Fruit Fly; co-developed Blue Cat, which went on to become the most popular cartoon in China; and is working on an epic melodrama, Moon Goddess.

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Me and Princess Long Long. T. Tandon NY blouse. Forever 21 headband. Frenchy of California handbag. Vintage blazer.

Princess Long Long describes her sense of style as “like a fairy” – floral, beaded, ethereal, embellished, often pink, with grand flourishes and minute details, each look designed by her and tailored for her. She has even designed and produced a Broadway-themed fashion show in Times Square! She works extensively with Thai designer Thunyatorn Cheng Ng, who has a boutique in Elmhurst, and Kyrgyz costume designer Natasha Berezhnaya, who is based in Westchester County.

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Princess Long Long and friends at the South Street Seaport.

She invited me to some events at the United Nations headquarters in Tudor, as the Ambassador for Humanitarian Affairs in Culture and Arts by the National Council of Women of the US Director of Culture and Arts at Partners for UN Affairs. She subsequently invited me to her induction as an honorary member of the Rotary Club of New York. This was when I really started to learn more about her. She wore a black velvet dress and a belt of golden dragons, to represent her lineage from the Long, or dragon, family of the Silk Road kingdom of Yanqi (ended in 1913). We started talking and she told me all about her background, her accomplishments, and what she is currently working on.

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Princess Long Long accepting her Rotary Club honorary membership certificate at the Union League Club in Murray Hill.

Blissful Style: How did you become an honorary member of the Rotary Club?

Princess Long Long: First of all, I work very closely with the United Nations, I have been participating in different kinds of events for world peace for a long time. I recently became the World Peace Ambassador of the World Peace and Diplomacy Organization, then I also became the ambassador of a Culture and Diversity Event at the 70th Cannes Film Festival, the Chinese ambassador for diversity and cultural arts. And I’m contributing as the ambassador for the US Women’s Council for Humanitarian Culture. So with all this work, naturally now I’m becoming an honorary Rotary member. The president, Jasmine, told everyone what I have been contributing, that I have been working so hard and contributing for world peace, that’s why they wanted to give me the honorary membership. I also hope I can devote myself to using more time and opportunities to help people from all over the world. As you know, the Rotary Club has 3500 clubs all over the world and 1.2 million members. So I’m very honored and happy to be becoming an honorary member today, and I really feel that I have a lot of things to do, to fulfill. All I want to do right now is to be focused on cultivating peaceful and friendly relations; our acting as one world, with a cultural diversity that can be shared with and embraced by all nations, is my one focus. As you know, mankind has the mind, which is what made war. If you work on the mind, at the spiritual level, then there will be less war and terrorism, and less manipulation, and things like the 9/11 tragedy will not happen. That’s why I’m working with the UN and supporting the UN record on the creative economy and cultural diplomacy. What the creative economy means is that, on the spiritual and cultural levels, we believe that if you are a creative artist, you can create beautiful things and make the world a lot more beautiful. This will make people understand one another much more, and once this happens, there will be far fewer barriers, much less misunderstanding and much less fighting. That promotes the economy, that’s a Sustainable Development Goal of the United Nations. It’s a global goal.

BS: How long have you been involved with the United Nations?

PLL: It’s been, off and on, almost three years. I started as an artist, performing, and then later on I worked with several organizations, as well as some creative press from all over the world. To develop art here today, I’m so happy, it shows that the UN definitely knows what you’re doing. Once you do something, really do it right, and the UN will support you.

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Princess Long Long at her Broadway-themed fashion show.

BS: How did you decide to go to Juilliard and pursue a career in music?

PLL: Oh, you know, you either have it or you don’t, so I knew that I had it, for as long as I can remember. So it’s been a long-time dream of mine to become a singer. However, my parents didn’t agree, they just didn’t want me to be a singer. But actually, my father was an opera singer and my mother was a music teacher. That’s what they do, music is their livelihood, but they didn’t want me to be in that, so they sent me to Europe to get a business education. But I didn’t feel happy doing that, and I believe that people should always do things that make them happy. Before I came to the United States, I had this girlfriend of mine, she told me one thing and it really made me make this decision. We went to see a Broadway show in Beijing, Chicago, and we watched that show together. She is a good friend of mine. We used to go to karaoke, which is very popular in China. When we performed, my girlfriends would go crazy for my voice, after they heard my voice, they would say Ohh. So after Chicago, my girlfriend told me, “Long, I’ve got to tell you one thing before you go to the United States”. She said, “After seeing this show, Chicago, you are just one of them, you are absolutely one of them.” She said, “I know you, because I know you from old times, and if I don’t see you on stage singing and performing like them before I die, I’m not gonna close my eyes, because I’m hoping.” That moved my heart. I thought, Wow, my friend really thinks this, and she’s a girl who has been with me for ten years, that means she knows me better than I know myself. She said, “When you go to the United States, you have to pursue your dream.” So I made a decision, in 2006 I came to the United States. I spent about a year traveling to eight cities, to live in each one for a little while and see which I liked best. Then, around 2007, I made my decision and said, Okay, I have to pursue my dream, and go to music school to train my voice. I’m not gonna give it up. I did research and spent a year-and-a-half in junior school training with the professors for the auditions. So that’s it, before I went over there I did a lot of preparation, almost two years, it was a big challenge for me. But I did it, it’s just that simple, I said If she wants me to be on stage like that, then I should start with a professional music school, so I’ll go.

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An advertisement for Princess Long Long’s performance at the Cannes Film Festival. 

BS: Tell me about your experience at the Cannes Film Festival. What was it like? What did you sing and what did you wear?

PLL: Oh, the Cannes Film Festival, that was a very interesting thing. I had dreamed about the Cannes Film Festival since I was very little, so I never believed that the first time I went to Cannes I would be performing! I thought, I’m gonna go over there, see the red carpet and the stars, but I never thought I myself was going to be a star over there. It was so exciting! They picked me up, a Hollywood production company, they wanted a Chinese singer because they were promoting a diversity and inclusion event. I believe I met with the theme. I did cross-cultural pieces. I revised some famous songs, like “La Vie en Rose”,  “Shanghai Night”, and a French opera piece, Roméo et Juliette, but I did them in a cross-cultural way. I didn’t want to do it in the same classic way it has been done before, so I mixed different styles, cultures, and languages. I believe that as artists, we are facing a global citizen, and we have to produce something that the global citizen really wants. They’re not gonna be satisfied with one culture or one language anymore, it has to be cross-cultural and cross-language. That’s what I thought, so I created those pieces for the Cannes Film Festival, and it was good, it was an honor to be the Chinese Cultural Inclusivity Ambassador, the diversity ambassador for the festival.

Some other people who went to the 70th Cannes Film Festival. No big deal…

BS: What languages do you sing in?

PLL: You mean at Cannes?

BS: Just in general.

PLL: Oh, I can sing in many different languages. But that’s standard training for all the voice classes at university. You have to be able to carry at least good dictions of different languages. I wore three different costumes. The first one, for Roméo et Juliette, I created an image of white, so my promotion video in the background was all white, everything was related to that white princess dress. That’s the image that I created, the “Eastern Dragon Princess”. This image won first prize at the Italian Royal Carnival fashion presentation in 2016. I also performed in this one at the World Fashion Parade. It has wings because I’m trying to give a message to the world, that the Eastern Dragon Princess on the Silk Road is the one link from East to West, and I’m fulfilling my ancient mission to bridge the cultural arts and spirituality between the East and the West. This dragon princess is pure, she’s classic, she’s elegant, and she is also hoping for peace, because the wings mean peace and prosperity. That was the first one I wore, and the second one, when I sang “Shanghai Night”, was a blue dress, like a mermaid. That’s why I liked your style the first time I met you, it’s like a fairy tale. When I was a little child I wanted to be a mermaid so badly. So I presented that with a Chinese robe. The wings and the robe were made by Natasha Berezhnaya, and she’s very good. We work together a lot to make these costumes. I would say she is the most talented and the best theater designer, and also dressmaker, that I know. I’m very picky about things, but we work beautifully. I always give her lots of ideas, and she has some ideas too, and then we make beautiful clothes, and she’s very talented. I wear a lot of her designs when I perform, and when I give presentations like this, like a speech, or go to a nightclub or cocktail party. The third look was for “La Vie en Rose”, I was in pure rose. Did you see that one? With the roses all over my head?

BS: Yeah! It’s so pretty!

PLL: That was one I designed. I thought, This song is rose, so let’s make a dramatic rose look! I placed rose hairpieces all over my head and added a pink fan. I can wear all pink because, like you, that is already how I dress. I also wore that one to perform at Couture Fashion Week.

BS: Oh yeah, I saw that, that’s what I saw. Would you ever consider creating apparel for purchase?

PLL: Yes, I want to do that, because now I have a team in Shanghai that would like to do branding for me and fund my projects. You know, Shanghai is a financial center, I have so many fans over there, and they want to do something for me, but at this moment, I don’t think…I’m just a talented designer, but I’m not really a professional designer. I have too many things going on right now — I am a writer, I am a singer — so when I’m young I will focus on performing arts, and then later on, my plan is to do all my branding, the commercial lines. I’ve already got enough fans who want to do it together, some professional people, especially in China. I would love to work with many Western designers and people as well, I would easily help them reach the Chinese market.

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A Natasha Berezhnaya fashion show.

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Natasha herself on the runway.

BS: Other than Natasha Berezhnaya, who are your favorite designers that you want to work with?

PLL: I have a couple of other people, some other Chinese too. I also like a Thai woman, Thunyatorn Cheng Ng. She’s very talented, so I work with her too. Natasha has a little bit more of a Western style, while Thunyatorn Cheng is very Eastern. So I go with both sides, because I kind of look in between.  I have the Asian skin and hair but a Western body, so I can work with both sides, I can wear Western and Eastern.

Thunyatorn Cheng Ng runway looks.

BS: Yeah, now that we have the option to wear both of them, as a more global world, everyone should start wearing things from all over the world.

PLL: Yeah that’s another thing, I was gonna tell you, because you are more like a fashion magazine, I think that the designers nowadays, in the Western countries, should really be aware of the Eastern impact. They can make a hit if they can do some cross-cultural things very well. You may see a lot of big brands, like Louis Vuitton and H&M,  starting to sell in all countries, and in China, they are trying to add little things as an Eastern touch, but it’s gotta be more. This is just the beginning. The Eastern impact is going to be big in the next ten, twenty years. So whoever catches this tide will be on the top of the world, whoever does it first is gonna be a pioneer, that’s what I think too. They should consider it, they will make themselves outstanding if they do some Eastern part, but the key is how to achieve the harmony, how to make it organic. You cannot be too Eastern or too Western, you have to do the right combination, mix them together and make it beautiful.

BS: What is Moon Goddess about? When can people see the Broadway show and the film?

PLL: Oh, Moon Goddess? Moon Goddess, which I wrote based on the Chinese fairy tale, is about the first love story in the Chinese mythology. The moon goddess’s name is Chang’e. Chang’e is the most beautiful woman in Chinese history. This is also the story of the Moon Festival. A lot of people know about the Moon Festival, but they don’t know the story behind it. They also know how to eat moon cakes, but they say “Hey, where do the moon cakes come from?” The Chinese moon goddess is the like the one in Greek culture, Seléne; the story is similar, but it’s different. Moon Goddess is about her life story with her husband, the hero Yi. There were supposed to be ten suns before, and the hero shoots nine suns and now there is only one left, so in the Chinese mythology it’s a new miracle, and it’s a new door for Western people to learn about Chinese culture. For any culture, when you bring the culture to an international level, you should always start with mythology: the Greek, the Middle Eastern, the Indian, all the people. If you need to open the door, you have to open the door to the rest of the world with mythology. That is why I wrote mythology. I have written five mythology books already, that I want to release one by one. I am working with several people — music professionals, Broadway and theater producers, movie producers – to fund Moon Goddess, and it will be a joint venture between China and the United States. Hopefully this musical movie is going to be out very soon. Maybe we should make it animation. I’m still working with my professional team to make a decision, we’re doing research and making decisions on the different steps: animation, then the musical movie, and then the Broadway show. But this is a new thing. China has the longest history, five thousand years, and they created a mass of information for the Eastern cultures. So most of the Eastern, Asia-Pacific cultures are based on the Chinese culture. So can you imagine if you guys never even knew about China? There’s a lot of information, a lot of potential.

Princess Long Long at Cannes. 

BS: And even now, Han Chinese is the most populous ethnic group in the world, so yeah, we should know! Tell me about your foundation. What does it do, and how can people find out more?

PLL: My family fund organization is working with the UN too. We help and support all of the seventeen Sustainable Development Goals of the United Nations. We are helping, doing anything we can, to support the global goals. I mainly work on cultural diplomacy, world peace, culture and the arts, and the creative economy, but then we have different partners. My family, my cousins, are working on education, cultural exchange, and exchange students, and we’re working on some technology projects too. My other partner is handling that.

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Princess Long Long at New Jersey Fashion Week.

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Princess Long Long at the World Fashion Parade. 

BS: You are descended from the Yanqi kingdom. What is the legacy of Yanqi today?

PLL: Yes, I am a direct descendant of Yanqi. It was the first country from the East on the Silk Road, but it was conquered twice, during the Tang Dynasty and the Qing Dynasty. The ruler of the country was the Dragon Family, “Long” in Chinese. Yanqi, it’s very interesting, they are people who are very, very famous in culture and the arts, very spiritual people. You know, Yanqi is the same pronunciation as the red, what do you call that, the red powder you put on your cheeks?

BS: Oh, blush?

PLL: Blush! Yes, blush in Chinese is called yanqi, so the Yanqi country name is taking over with yanqi, because we created it. We created blush a long time ago, because all the women in that country liked to make themselves very beautiful. They made blush, and then in turn it became a commodity, going over into China and down the Silk Road to other places, and the Chinese didn’t know what it was, so they called it yanqi, the same pronunciation as the country. These people are also very good in entertainment, they sing, they dance, they are composers, they are very spiritual. We are also the ones who transferred Buddhism from India to China, and we brought the dragon image to India. You know my name Long means dragon, so we created the dragon image. I’m not sure when we created the image, but we are the ones who brought the dragon image to North India. As for the Yanqi legacy of today, Yanqi became Xinjiang Yanqi Economic Zone. It’s beautiful, it’s peaceful, it’s beside the lake, Bosten Lake. We call it a developing zone. But they still kept the name Yanqi.

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At the Rotary meeting. American Rag dress. Forever 21 necklace.

BS: What advice would you give to people aspiring to a career in a creative profession?

Wow, that’s hard to say. I cannot say I’m at a level to give advice, I mean, lots of people do better than me, but I think for my career, I would like to address one thing: communication skills. It is very important for you, in becoming successful, to have great communication skills. So I trained myself in that way. You see, there are a lot of people who are talented, and I’m sure, of course I’m not the most talented. I might be talented, yes, but what I’ve found is that some people, especially artists, are not very good at talking to people. They’re never good at showing their skills, and they feel shy, they’re very sensitive, the most sensitive people. Artists tend to be more sensitive than other people, because they know what is going on, and they always want to be the best, and what if sometimes they’re not the best? It does make them very shy, it makes them feel very bad. So you need to keep a goal, you need to treat yourself like…It’s a psychology thing, at The Juilliard School I took a peak performance class. They help you to understand, before you perform, to train you. I don’t know if you know about Alexander Technique, but basically, before you go to perform, they train you how to think that other people all — it’s all psychology — that they’re all there supporting you, and they all worship you, and they have no problems at all with you, and think you’re the best. You have to practice that all the time, so you don’t get stage fright. That’s the key. Also, as an artist, you need to go outside your immediate network to develop your opportunities, and then you have to know how to run your business. A lot of artists tend to avoid all these things. They hate to do business.

BS: Yeah, they think creativity and business are two opposite things.

PLL: No, unfortunately, if you really want to become successful, you need to do everything. Especially the business parts, you have to know how to build agreements, even though you have agents, because most agents try to take advantage of you. So you need to know how to protect yourself. The biggest problem for artists is that they don’t know how to protect themselves. And then that’s the next thing I’m going to do, is to create a foundation with my auntie. I want to have a foundation to protect the artists. Because I see all the sadness, I feel bad that they get taken advantage of. I myself have been taken advantage of by people too, so I can’t imagine how many artists get taken advantage of, it’s a sad thing. It’s very sad, however, this is a reality, because most of the people we hear about, and I’m not saying there aren’t good people, but most only care about money. Some of these people are sincere, they take the artist into consideration, but still, 80 percent of people don’t. So you need to know that, you have to be strong, to learn how to protect yourself. You know what I mean? Our society cannot be completely successful the way it is because the artist is not at the top. The ideal society is one where you have beautiful people cultivating the beautiful parts, and they are closest to the gods, they cannot be brutalized. They are not supposed to be brutalized.

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Princess Long Long performing at the Kaufman Music Center, New York City